In nearly every relationship I’ve been in, I’m the breadwinner when it comes to income and even career power. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal what’s in someone’s bank as much as how they manage what’s in it.

I would always rather be with someone who has the resilience and stability in their life especially if/when life throws them financial curveballs.

I also want to be with someone who shares the same values in the way of how they regularly spend and there is an agreement of quality of life that results of the spent money.

I’ve known of people who make a lot of money and they are also some of the most wasteful and impulsive with it. I’ve also known people who make so much less money and they are so smart and self controlled that you would think they have huge annual incomes because of their short term cash on hand and long term financial holdings.

I’m not the best or the worst with money but I do know that disagreement about finances combined with differing spending habits can and will set relationships up to be doomed from the start.

Talking about money and how that will inevitably play a role in a relationship is an important part of intimacy for long range relationship success — even if that means it’s determined that the compatibility isn’t there enough to keep going together.