Real Talk

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We ended our first date in the front seat of his truck wrapped in each other’s embrace. He totally caught me off guard when he whispered to me, “I just feel so safe with you.”

I responded by continuing to look into his eyes and squeezed him a little tighter than I already was while holding onto him.

When I waded back into the possibilities of a serious relationship and started dating to try and make it happen, I had in mind what I was hoping to find and not willing to compromise:

• They have to be themselves without any hints from me of if I would like how they are at all. This is because I wanted someone to be as organically who/what/how they are as possible. It couldn’t be about someone “people-pleasing” to win me over.
• I had to feel completely comfortable and confident to be myself with zero apology or effort around and with them AND they need to be not just “fine” with it but also really into it.
• There had to be an obvious confidence from both them AND me that it was a “no-brainer” AND mutual agreement that a “we” wasn’t just a good idea but it was a very clear and obvious yes.

And with the person I ended up meeting? It has been all of the aforementioned and MORE. I am beside myself with awe and delight because how…